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Ability to recover
Golf is a challenging sport. One small mistake can make your ball go into the worst places. Successful professional golfers are not perfect players. However, they are able to recover quickly. Life is all about making mistakes, learning from them, and recovering.
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Practice
I saw many professional golfers practice the morning of the tournament. After four hours of playing competitive golf, they head right back to the practice grounds. Practicing does make perfect.
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Proper nutrition
As with any athletes, proper nutrition is a must. I constantly saw the golfers hydrating themselves and taking in healthy nutrients (banana, protein bars). This allows them to sustain a high performance level.
5 key values I saw at the Northern Trust Open
5 key values I saw at the Northern Trust Open
Recently I had the opportunity to go to the Northern Trust Open held at the Riviera Country Club in Pacific Palisades, CA. Here are five personal development tips that I witnessed at the tournament.
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Good sportsmanship
Golf is a unique sport in that although you are individually competing against one another, you are also cheering each other on. It is really great to hear players commending other players on their great golf shots. Good sportsmanship can be applied to non-sports activities as well. At work or at home, working together, supporting each other, all are great values and can help you succeed.
5 more tips on how couples can argue fairly
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Use “I” statements.
Rather than you make me mad, take responsibility by saying, “I am mad.”
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Journaling.
Take time to write down issue or problem before it explodes. This helps to slow the building of tension and clarify the problem, making it easier to problem solve.
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No drama.
Being dramatic can only escalate the situation. Talk in a straightforward manner.
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Calm.
Each partner should take ownership in calming themselves.
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Pick your battles.
Find what is worth fighting for. Is it worth fighting over the keys that were left on the table by accident versus how you much the other partner is spending?
5 additional ways couples can argue fairly
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Stay in the present moment.
Past cannot be changed. If you cannot let go of the past, your partner will give up because he/she may think whatever he/she does will not make a difference.
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Do not go to sleep after argument..
unless it is resolved. It is also important not to argue in bed or in the dark.
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Mutual decision to walk away.
Make a mutual decision to walk away and cool down if needed.
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Be mindful of your body language.
Finger pointing is often condescending. People pay attention to how your message is delivered rather than the words themselves.
5 ways couples can argue fairly
Every couple, no matter how close they are can get into a fight. It is important to bear in mind that fights or arguments are ways in which couples try to want to make the other person understand how they are feeling. Disagreements can come up so it is important to keep in mind rules so that out of there is a resolution.
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No threats.
Threats do not help resolve the problem. It is important to stay focused on the issue(s).
5 more ways to stop using food as a coping mechanism
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Be realistic and patient
It takes time working through emotions and implementing new positive coping mechanisms.
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Focus on the positives
Give yourself credit for positive things in your life.
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Identify triggers
Find out what thoughts, feelings, situations influence your eating.
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Have a strong support system
Have a network of people with positive coping strengths around you.
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Talk to your doctor
Talk to your doctor about positive eating habits and also medications that cause an increase in serotonin.
5 ways to stop using food as a coping mechanism
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Self-Awareness Journal
Record what you are eating, when, and how you felt.
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Find why you feel like eating and substitute more positive behaviors
Perhaps you feel like eating because you are bored. Look for positive hobbies to keep your attention. Art, singing, golfing, basketball, etc.
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Identify what you feel
Are you feeling sad or stressed? What is the source of that. Is it your job? College? Find ways to deal with that stress effectively.
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Life is not perfect
Worries are bound to come up and food will not resolve it. Accept that worries come up and do the best and move forward.
Way to evaluate whether you are using food as a way of coping
Have you noticed that when you are stressed your fingers move towards the sweet candy? How about a cup of coffee and a muffin? I know I am most vulnerable to overeating foods or foods that are unhealthy when I am stressed. Here are questions to ask when understanding your eating history. It is important to talk to a professional if you find that food is a way to make you feel better, especially if there is overeating, starvation, and vomiting involved.
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Kinds, amounts, and frequency of food use.
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Foggy memories or difficulty concentrating after eating too much.
5 more ways to caregive for elderly parents
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Take care of yourself first
In order to care for another, you need to have enough physical and emotional energy. Fir example getting adequate rest, enjoying your hobbies are essential.
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Accept current circumstances
Don’t waste your energy trying to think your way out. Be realistic and make sensible choices.
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Self-review
From time to time evaluate your emotions, use of time, self-care and personal goals. Make changes as needed.
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Obtain help for yourself
It is difficult to see those you love decompensating physically or psychologically. Finding community resources to assist.
5 ways to caregive for elderly parents
The following are 5 tips on how to be a healthy caregiver, when caring for elderly parents.
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Set boundaries
It is important to set limits after deciding what you will, won’t or can’t do. Setting limits does not mean that you are a bad caregiver. It means you are conscious of the responsibilities of being a caregiver. Being an effective caregiver means that you are able to take care of yourself so that you can care for others.
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Live in the moment
Avoid negative thoughts such as “what if” and do what is right for you. Accept that you cannot control others all the time. Avoid unnecessary worry.
