5 more tips on how couples can argue fairly

Use “I” statements.

Rather than you make me mad, take responsibility by saying, “I am mad.”

Journaling.

Take time to write down issue or problem before it explodes. This helps to slow the building of tension and clarify the problem, making it easier to problem solve.

No drama.

Being dramatic can only escalate the situation. Talk in a straightforward manner.

Calm.

Each partner should take ownership in calming themselves.

Pick your battles.

Find what is worth fighting for. Is it worth fighting over the keys that were left on the table by accident versus how you much the other partner is spending?