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Everyone may have had a point in their lives where they had to deal with feelings of abandonment. It may have been as a child seeing your parents going to work and being left with a babysitter. It may be a loss of a parent, friend, significant other. No matter what it may have been, it can be painful. Sometimes it can lead to not being able to trust others, feelings of betrayal and influence relationships in the future.

People with feelings of abandonment can go through different phases

• Initial shock- finding out that someone has left.

• Denial- not wanting to believe that the person has left.

• Withdrawal- not wanting to think about it.

• Self-doubt, self-blame- unsure as to the reason why that person left. Blaming yourself.

• Rage/anger- anger at the person for leaving or anger at others for not understanding your feelings. You may even project your thoughts onto your friends and family members.

• Acceptance- through finding positive coping mechanisms, you come to place of understanding.

Here are the top 3 ways to cope with feelings of abandonment

• Journal- outlining thoughts

  Emotions and feelings of abandonment can be complicated and confusing. There are many types of emotions (anger, sadness, jealousy, etc.) that can be interwined. It can be overwhelming. Writing down emotions and people connected to feelings of abandonment can be therapeutic. It can also help to understand and organize your thoughts and where your feelings are coming from.

• Find coping mechanisms that work for you

  Taking care of yourself is important. Often people find relief in their favorite hobbies whether it be sports, music, art, or reading. It allows you to release emotions in a positive way.

• Talking to someone

  Talk to loved ones can provide emotional support. Also seeking professional help can make a difference. Professionals are trained to provide a therapeutic safe environment. They can also empower an individual to cope effectively with their feelings of abandonment.