Public Spark

Gather the group and appoint a moderator

For initial meetings, this may be a parent. Having a central person can allow order and organization.

Explain the ground rules

These include no blaming, no labeling or name calling. In this way, the meeting can be a safe environment for discussion and brainstorming.

Work on one problem

Usually when conflicts arise there are multiple problems that need to be tackled. However, this can not only be overwhelming, but confusing and often lead to more conflicts. Early in the meeting, clearly stating one issue can help bring focus.

Allow each member to state his or her opinion

It is important that each member get an opportunity to speak without interruptions. In this way, everyone gets an opportunity to speak. This is the time to confront miscommunication or
misperception that may have led to the conflict in the first place.

Brainstorm solutions and come to an agreement

Although during one meeting, there may not be the fix-all solution, there may be a compromise that could be reached. Meeting and brainstorming together can help build cohesiveness.

Take a time out or know when to ask for help.

Meetings within families are not easy at times. Members can get emotional or feel personally attacked, even when that is not the intension. It is important to take a time out. Also, this may be a time to ask for help either from a third party like a member of the church or licensed mental health provider.