Public Spark

I often hear this from my friends in relationships and I find myself saying that it my relationship as well. Indeed men and women communicate in a different way. Here are some facts that I have heard from web sources.

• Men want to problem solve, women want to vent

  Whenever there’s a problem, women tend to want to vent or discuss it. This goes along the lines that there are emotions usually connected to the problem. Women want to approach a problem by first talking about it. However, men tend to want to go directly to the problem solving. This ties into the next point, which is..

• Men skip the feelings part, women are generally comfortable with their feelings

  Women feel more comfortable expressing their feelings, while men don’t. Women tend to cope by expressing feelings, while men tend to cope by actually trying to solve the problem.

• Women talk more than men

  It is a fact that women talk more than men

• Men cut to the chase, women like to tell and share stories

  Men like to cut get to the source of the problem, while women like to talk about the issues. This can be a problem because women tend to think that the stories are important, but men can feel that it is a waste of time.

Accept the differences, but strive for mutual understanding. Don’t expect the other to know what you are talking about or not talking about. Compromise! in a relationship, one cannot outshadow the other. One does not always have to listen to stories, nor does one have to cut to the chase. If you strive to balance these pieces, one will find that in certain situations it is better to slow down and in other situations it is better to cut to the chase.