Dealing with stress of family and friends “get-togethers”

Family and friends are great people to have around. No one will argue with me on that. However, difficulties may arise as in any relationship. Particularly when it comes to “get-togethers” where there are a number of factors involved especially when you are the host. These include a large group, mass chaos, messiness, arguments, kids running around, etc.

Here are some factors that have worked for me:

1. Boundaries

   If you know you can’t deal with kids, be honest about it. Talk to those you invite ahead. Open and honest communication can go along way.

2. Flexibility

   Sometimes you do have to be flexible. Perhaps you only want the get-together to be a couple hours, but some members may stay longer. If you are really pressed for time and you don’t want to spend a long time, on the invitation you can put a shorter time, then when it goes over you won’t feel so bad.

3. Sharing responsibility

   It’s easy to try to do everything yourself. Sometimes sharing responsibility eases the stress. Have a potluck, delegate who does the dishes ahead of time, who will play with the kids, etc.

4. Have time for yourself

   If you need to step away from the crowd a little, that’s what you need to do.

5. Have fun!

   Know that it is not permanent. No matter how stressful any event may be there is always a positive. Know that you have a choice to change a get together the next time or to eliminate it!